People entering the dating scene today are absolute cowards!

It’s no wonder they have to hide behind apps on their devices to try and find the love of their life – if that’s even what they’re genuinely looking for.

They say it’s because they’re ‘time poor’ that they need to invest themselves into technology to be able to find their soulmate – but how much time are they spending on these apps themselves?! And are they really saving themselves ’time’, or is it more that they’re saving face by using a more cowardly method of introduction.

How easy is it for them to portray themselves as the perfect catch when they have the opportunity to edit and alter what they say – especially with the introduction of AI into chat features…

They can be whoever they want to be – manipulate their words into being the perfect representation of how they want to portray themselves – it’s all nothing but a farce from the get go.

It’s no wonder that so many of these online relationships go downhill the minute people meet in real life – when they can no longer rely on the assistance of artificial intelligence to give them the perfect answer to questions or the gift of time to be able to come up with the perfectly worded response themselves and merely ‘send’ it through to their partner once they’ve edited their response enough.

Apps can help people take their time in the search for love, but they don’t offer any guidance on how to treat others with decency.

These apps should, but don’t provide counselling for when things go wrong or when people just don’t turn out to be the person they were pretending to be.

When someone who was spending hours on the phone with you is suddenly stopping all contact with you – without any explanation nor reasoning or closure for what went wrong when everything seemed to have been going so right.

These dating apps seem to cause just as much heartbreak as they do help people find connections – maybe even more!

Or perhaps it’s not the app itself, but the kind of people who use them. Maybe there’s a certain type of coward who opts for the app route instead of seeking love in real life because they want to avoid getting hurt. They may be unwilling to face the risk of breaking their own hearts in reality, so they end up hurting others online instead – since the stakes feel lower for them.

Whatever it may be, we need a more human way of finding love moving forward – especially with groups on social media like ‘Sis, Is This Your Man?’, ‘Sis, Is This Your Home-wrecker?’ and other online groups such as ‘Is He Safe To Date?’ that you can join on social media to enable you to get some sort of background check on a person before you date them – in reality you can run background checks on whomever you want – but what about treating that person as someone with feelings and emotions just like you? Who deserves respect and empathy just as you do!

We need to be providing the actual human with a genuine reason when we break up with them – something to give them peace and closure.

It’s not about abruptly cutting off all contact with them once you’re no longer interested. There are more considerate ways to communicate that you want to end the relationship. It’s important to handle these situations with care and respect for the other person’s feelings.

We need to state why we’re not invested – what has changed – people can’t be so cold and callous!

If someone isn’t who you expected them to be after exchanging photos, messages and talking on the phone for hours on end then the least you can do is express to them what went wrong and why you’re breaking up with them or why you’re no longer interested in them.

It doesn’t just provide them with the closure that they so desperately need, but it gives them the opportunity for growth and to be a better person for themselves as well as for somebody else. It provides them with guidance into how to better live their life to their fullest potential – we are all human at the end of the day, we all make mistakes and personal growth is such an integral part of life.

I understand that there might be situations where people may not feel safe in letting the other person know why they have broken things off with them – in that case, let the police know so that the authorities can keep everyone else safe as well as informing the person about their inappropriate conduct.

No matter what the situation is, we need to communicate and not leave people hanging!

How hard is it to provide feedback and closure – especially if you’ve already wasted so much of someone’s time?! Something as simple as “Meeting up was not what I expected, I’ve noticed a lot of red flags so I’d prefer not to pursue this any further” or “Sorry, you remind me too much of my ex, so I’m going to have to call it quits with you.” or “Listen, I just don’t feel a spark. There’s no vibe between us…” just something, anything – rather than absolute silence.

Blocking someone does not equal ending a relationship – it’s just sad and cowardly and the only ‘end’ that they’re experiencing is from knowing that the person who’s done it is an absolutely awful human being.

Or maybe it all boils down to the type of person who engages in this type of app to find love – maybe if you’re not responsible enough to be able to make time and seek someone out in real life then you’re simply not the type of person to put yourself out there to be able to end a relationship decently either.

Rather than ending things in a civil manner they continue to rely on technology and simply block people as a means of letting them know that they’re no longer interested – because they believe they don’t have the time even to be decent.

That’s when their true colours shine the brightest, they make their real identity known and as for their victims – hopefully one day they will realise what a massive bullet they dodged.

If you can’t show bravery when seeking love then at the very least don’t be a coward when ending it!